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What Are the Dreams in Your Eyes, Resort Girl?

March 29, 2018

“It’s as if as you read my thoughts! You appear to understand so much about this, like you wrote the guide on it or something,” Resort Girl Chelsea commented. She went on to say, “I think that you just can do with a few more pictures to drive the message home a little bit, but other than that, this is an excellent blog. A great read. I’ll certainly be back.”

So, in response to Chelsea’s suggestion, I decided to share a personal story on how this Resort Girl’s wide-eyed “what” dreams came true.

In my late twenties, my relationship and career consumed my life. As a young woman with big dreams in her eyes, I knew it was not where my destiny was. I was living in a small, basement apartment, with a 9 to 5 job in a finance field where, back then, very few woman advanced.

As I plugged away day and night in my tiny dark cube, hitting the calculator keys for hours, I realized this was not the right place for me. 9 to 5 life did not suit my energetic and creative personality. I had studied for a business finance degree and always been good in math, so therefore it was just the chosen path for my first careers. But I struggled daily, I had little passion and, thus, I had limited success.

THEN…. one night I had this vision – a dream life picture! I was dancing in a beautiful European square, in a formal dress, with the moonlight shining above and music playing throughout the crisp air.

This resort girl had a dream… I wanted to see and experience the world!

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And there was my personal Resort Girl first “where” and “what.” What I wanted my dream life to be. Each night when I went back to my little dark and stark apartment, that glorious and grand vision appeared in my head. It gave my soul the light it needed to keep shining.

I traded in my truck for a used VW bug convertible – the wind in my hair inspired my dreams.

Of course, I am a dreamer and a bit odd, so my creative mind tends to get away from me at times! Thus, this Resort Girl has learned the hard way to keep her visions real and down to earth. So, I next enrolled in a Master’s program in Finance, but took international finance courses. The firm offered to pay for some of my studies, as long as they related to the business. Fortunately, there was enough international subject matter to satisfy me.

At night, I would leave those cold calculator keys and go learn about the bright, big world and how it worked. Even at my young age, I knew education was the avenue to success and to a better life. Learning is an excellent way to live in words and lessons before actually living or doing something. The books, internet and the experts you encountered along the way give you inspiration and ideas to bring your plan to life.

But, that first Resort Girl vision started me on the “what” of what I wanted for my Perfect life plan. Very soon after enrolling, I met my partner in life and business for the next two decades. He was an international finance professor, and we went on to start a successful small business in corporate training (I had also learned at the time that this Resort Girl had to work for herself.)

And, it is how I built my dream Resort Girl life… to experience the world.

As most of our clients were Fortune 500 and international firms, we traveled around the world, at times even in a private corporate jet. I remember one trip, when we visited 11 countries in 16 days for a firm. If you are on an international path, they keep you going forward to save airfare. While it’s not ideal for your ear drums, it is good for your wide, dreaming RG eyes.

Pre-9/11, and also during pre-recession years, international travel was so much more relaxing and carefree . The events we spoke at were always held in top-notch resorts and were designed to train and honor the hard work of all of their their dedicated associates and partners. My partner and I got to tag along and experience some breath-taking places—and, best of all, much of it was paid for, so we would add a quick vacay at end of them! We worked long hours and took many risks to get there, but we made it.

This Resort Girl got her “what.” I did get to dance on that European street in my formal dress – several times over.

But success brings change… and people change… and sometimes, so does your life.

So now, as a single woman again, I am on my next vision… Resort Girl Worldwide:

…Resort Girl, a lifestyle brand, enchants the adventurous woman who dreams of far-away places, relaxing but recharging experiences, and words of wisdom to reflect upon. The Resort Girl…the new “it” girl…is a woman who is on an ongoing journey, exploring her physical and mental abilities while enjoying and living gracefully with nature.

What are the dreams in your eyes, Resort Girls? Tell us how you are discovering and exploring your “what.”

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Can you Spring Anew Resort Girls and Guys?

October 28, 2017

Can you start anew?
Can you make another dream come true?
You can…by keeping a positive view
I believe it is true
That you
Can always
Spring anew!
Like the seasons do
Like the trees do
Like the seedlings too
If and only if
YOU
Believe it is true
Can you renew?
Can you develop into a new
And better
You?
It is up to you and only
You
Cast away the negatives
Say no, not me
I am still able and free
To be
Young and healthy
Say
My body thrives
My mind still dives
Into new adventures
Always venturing
Keep dreaming away
Every day
Break…
Rise and shine
With only hopeful thoughts in mind
It is only when we give up
That our souls grow old
We are to leave this world as children
Life to the end can be filled with fun
Run, Run, Run
From those who categorize you
By the number of your years
It is just their fears…
Each year
Is filled with beauty beyond compare
Do not compare
Them to old
Like the seasons
Each year builds a new
YOU
Never give into reasons
You are told
Why you cannot be bold
While your soul
Always stays dreaming!

Resort Girl and Guys

by Resort Girl

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The Leaves of a Resort Girl Life

October 17, 2017

A quote by one of my favorite personal development gurus, Jim Rohn, says:

Success is a Journey not a Destination

This seemed to be a theme this week in my reading – if you think you reach success and then stop – you will also put the brakes on your personal growth. Growth must always be a part of our life, even as we advance in age.

As I have officially arrived in the Fall season of my life, the leaves of life are starting to turn.

Like the Fall leaves, my true colors are starting to emerge. It took years to grow into who I am. Maybe that is what life is all about…growing into a beautiful person of many ideas, thoughts and – ultimately –wisdom.

We are so green and growing in our youth, just like the Spring blossoms. Then, we are bright and sunny during our adult years. Our souls are shining with new ideas and the thrill of discovery. We are like the burning rays of a hot summer day…setting the world on fire.

Then we reach the Fall years, when this growing turns our souls into their true beauty. We have become a mixture of colors influenced by all the loves, careers, cares and dares of our younger years.

Our souls are almost there…to the winter of our lives where we are wiped clean, like the first winter snow. Our minds and even hair turn to the purest of white…we are ready for eternal life.

I plan to appreciate the seasons of my life and not fight them. I will make the best of each season.
This is my season to appreciate what wisdom the world has given me and keep building and growing towards the peaceful Winter rest that is given to us.

We leave this world as we came, naked like the winter trees and with minds reborn just like a newborn.

That is my hope in life.

Resort Girl

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Resort Girls and Guys Surf the Swell…Knowing All Will Be Well

September 12, 2017
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As the Waves in the Ocean Rise
Resort Girls and Guys Surf the Swell
Riding out the Turbulent Tides with Pride in their State
Remaining Courageous in the Rough Seas
Knowing the Skies and their Lives will Shine Bright!

Honoring all those brave Resort Girls and Guys whose lives have been impacted by the recent Hurricanes

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Painting by Toby Hayes, Winter Park Florida

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The Lens of your Life is as Wide as you Make it

August 8, 2017

Some people live with landscape views. Some with intimate views. Some with both. It is all up to you, Resort Girls and Guys…to be true to the real you.

I must wander in a never-ending search for new views and avenues for inspiration, as well as for words and visions, for my poetry and photography. However, my constant need for car keys or plane tickets has left little time to establish deep roots. And it does not help that my father was a pilot and my mother one of the first stewardesses.

But, I have learned the hard way that some type of roots are needed to seed a fruitful life. Blowing in the wind and being a rolling stone as they say, can catch up with you in the long run of life.

Many times you wander in search of who you can be – or sometimes – running away from who you are!

Good Medicine

As I sit here writing this blog, my mind and body really want to be running free among the trees, beaches or mountains — seeing new places, spaces and meeting new faces. But I have quit running a bit.

Why? I have taken the time over the last few years to discover the real me and not live life in someone else’s shadow or image. That is easy to do…trust me! The real challenge is to find the true you, Resort Girls and Guys.

One of the best races, battles, jobs, adventures and prizes in life—is to have peace within yourself. Peace with who we are and how we live “our” lives. Because, when we love ourselves, we can love others so much more freely, naturally and, most of all, unconditionally.

That is why opening our lens is good sometimes—and letting others look in. Travel is an excellent way — even for just the day — to do this exploration. And that why I started this Resort Girl blog. It was on my own vehicle for self-discovery after years of living in other people’s shadows. My time was running out for this opportunity, as I entered mid-life. It was now, or maybe, never.

Youth provides one the time and energy to rebuild. You can get a second, and even third chance. However, over time, mother time takes away some of that energy. It takes consistency and energy to build relationships, friendships, love and opportunities to give.

As mother time catches up to me, I find myself needing time to unwind, to spend more time and sip some wine with relatives and friends. I will always keep my lens wide open, as it is true to my nature. The car keys are always in sight,  ready to aid me in my exploration.  But keeping the car in my garage a bit more is in store for me at the moment; and I am adding a few roots and find myself traversing some of the same routes.

I took time to find my personal peace…and what a prize and blessing it is to have discovered it.

The Prize of Peace…is well worth the trails – and trials.

 

 

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Time to Reflect Upon a Sunset, Resort Girl?

July 19, 2017

Time to Reflect
Upon a Sunset, Resort Girls and Guys
To Reset Our Lives
To be the Best
To Focus on the Beauty of the Palm Trees
To Focus on our Core Human Needs
Faith, Hope, Love and Respect
To Ponder what is Next
To Hope for the Best
To Respect Nature and Others
And Most Importantly…to Love One Another.
What a Glorious Gift it is to Reflect Upon a Sunset,
RESORT GIRL and GUYS

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